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Protestant media has asserted that young men are not as prevalent in church as young women (for instance, this article by Christianity Today). Outside of Protestant churches, social experts like Kay Hymowitz, who wrote Manning Up, call attention to young men performing worse than young women. Several individuals mentioned Dr. Thomas White as a Protestant source and expert on young men and the church. Who is Dr. Thomas White?
Thomas White is married to Joy, the father of Rachel and Samuel, and a third generation country preacher. He currently serves as the Vice President for Student Services and Communications at Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary where he is also an Associate Professor of Systematic Theology. His last two book projects were Upon This Rock: The Baptist Understanding of the Church and Franchising McChurch: Feeding Americas Obsession with Easy Christianity. In addition to studying the Scriptures, he enjoys lifting weights, running, sports, karate, hunting, and fishing.

1. I've read and heard several critiques that Protestant churches have a lack of male leadership (or men seeking leadership positions) and that there's also a growing absence of men, especially young men, in church? What are the reasons behind this trend?
Let me begin by saying that I am privileged to serve at Southwestern Seminary, and I teach many excellent young men on a daily basis. So while the critique has some measure of truth, I do see hope for the future with approximately 3,500 young men and women preparing for service in the Lord’s work.
As to the question, most churches do have more women than men. I will suggest that it is for two reasons.
First, men by nature do not like to submit to leadership, humble themselves before anyone, or admit that they are wrong. These generalized characteristics of men make them less likely to naturally flow toward church and religion. Many men feel that church forces them to give up their “man card.” And, I am confident that Satan wants it this way. If he can do anything to prevent the men of a country from being what they should, then he can destroy the family, the church, and the nation. This problem goes all the way back to the Garden where Adam listened to Eve rather leading and followed her way rather than God’s.
Second, we don’t challenge our men enough. Men by nature want a challenge, and they want to conquer. When they come to church and find out that they can listen to a sermon, sing songs, or work in the nursery changing diapers…well, let’s just say that’s not the challenge they desire. Furthermore, when we sing about the lily of the valley and Jesus being the lover of our soul, then men lose interest. Some of this begins in our children’s groups where the main activity is keeping the boys in line, encouraging them to clap or do silly gestures to the latest kids song.
2. How can Protestant churches address this trend?
The best response challenges men to answer God’s call. God called men to dominion over the earth, to fight a spiritual battle against the evil forces of this world, and go into the darkest places with the light of Jesus Christ. Paul uses analogies from warfare and athletics repeatedly. When men realize that the easy road has always been that of abdicating leadership as Adam did when standing by while Eve at the fruit, but that the challenging road comes with defending their family from evil forces by being true men of God, then I believe men will answer that call.
While not neglecting women, pastors and churches need to focus efforts on the men—the spiritual leaders of the home. Once we have the men we need, then the homes, the churches, and even our nation will grow healthier.
Men also need to have (and be taught) a generational vision of legacy and success. Where success is not characterized by wearing pajamas all day and living at the Playboy mansion, but by looking around as you are about to die realizing that all of your children and grandchildren are believers in Christ and that your temporary separation awaits an eternal restoration because you have found victory in Jesus.
Men need to see money not as a way to retire or buy bigger toys, but as a resource that can pay for getting the Gospel to those who will never hear. We should plan to use money to sponsor a grandchild’s church plant or send our kids on mission trips to third world countries. This type God-sized vision will inspire and challenge men. And beyond what we can do, we must pray for the Holy Spirit to bring revival to our country and specifically to our men.
3. Young men don't seem to be doing as well in education and business as young women. If a young man asked you for advice in these two big areas, what three suggestions would you give him?
First, let the Bible saturate your life. Here, you see my bias. I am not as much concerned about the moralistic end of better education and business success as creating godly men. With that said, godly men will do better in education and business.
I suggest that young men continually read through the book of Proverbs. While much can be said to help a young man succeed, if real success is godliness, then it comes through knowing more about God and glorifying Him. Reading, internalizing, and memorizing Scripture will lead to that end. Along the same lines, young men need to find older, godly men to learn from. Whether that is a dad, a pastor, a coach or whoever, they should seek to surround themselves with godly, successful, mentors.
Second, get out of the fantasy world and step into reality. Too many young men spend endless hours conquering a video game or lusting over pornographic images of “photoshopped” women in a virtual world that exist only on a screen. They need to get out in the real world. They can play sports, hike, fish, or hunt. If the outside is not for them, then join a group and build a house for the homeless, serve at a soup kitchen, or volunteer at a nursing home. These experiences and accomplishments will prepare for success for more than conquering the latest edition of Call of Duty.
Third, stop waiting on a wife to grow up. No woman wants a man who lives at home, has no job, and has no plan. Intelligent, attractive women want a spouse not a leech or an invalid. If a young man wants to succeed, then he needs to begin making plans to succeed. That means moving out from his mom’s house, getting an education so that he can get a real job, and preparing himself spiritually to lead a family. It does not mean accumulating massive amounts of debt on a new car, credit card purchases, or the latest gadgets; rather, saving money to pay cash for a used car, a down payment on a house, or an engagement ring when God does bring the right girl along. It also does not mean finding your identify in the newest girl or changing who you appear to be in order to attract a girl. Young men need to get comfortable with how God created them and who God wants them to be, and the find a girl on the same path with similar goals. And I always tell them that a spouse can cut you in half or double you. As Proverbs says it is better to live on the corner of a house than with a contentious woman. On the other hand, a godly wife is better than fine jewels.
No one plans to work in a dead end, boring job, but it happens. No one wants their daughter to date a guy who takes advantage of them. So young men need to be the kind of man they want their daughter to marry. They need to treat women as sisters in Christ and not as objects for their entertainment.
To parents, I would say set biblical expectations. Parents should not let their young men waste youth on video games or constant partying. Parents should expect the development of a good work ethic, a disciplined life, and godly pursuits. I would suggest parents take a close look at the myth of adolescence. The Bible never indicates that life should have a period of time where young men can “sow their wild oats” but rather this time should develop godly character. The Bible also never indicates that we should send teenage boys and girls off alone in a car with raging hormones and no accountability. Dating does more harm than good. I would encourage a good look at courtship or intentional dating that involves the family.
A Gospel centered family built on the foundation of God’s Word will go a long way to rearing healthy, successful, young men.